I grew up into shame at a very young age. But I’m going to question their benefit to our mental health.
I’m not going to bitch about hot men here. But after a while of looking at your feed of men with toned muscles, hair in all the right places, eyes that say ‘let’s cuddle’ and perfectly-shaped chins, we should ask ourselves: are we more turned on or more sad? It is WE who told them in the first place that this is what we want to see: we follow men on Instagram just because the way they look, we want to see the hottest looking men have sex on Porn Hub, and sometimes we click on an article on the internet just because the subject of the article is cute. Gay porn, gay magazines, gay dating apps, and even Instagram-they all “sell” us unanimously-agreed hot men as the currency of our time and attention, and as a way to make money off of us.Īnd this is, of course, not random. But how much of it is constantly being fed by things that I don’t even notice that I’m doing?Ī quick search on Google images for “gay” leads the results of what Google thinks we all want to see: perfectly-shaped muscular torsos in shorty-shorts, with perfect smiling masculine faces.
For years I’ve been struggling with shame, thinking that I’m not good enough.
